When you are around with people who inspires you to become the better version of yourself, or rather, be the best version of yourself, you allow yourself to dream big and be big, to do more and be more, to go out there and be out there. When you find these people, never stop loving them. If you can’t tell them how much they mean to you, show it. If you can’t say you miss them, spend some time with them. If you can’t say out loud that you love them, reflect your actions to what you actually feel.
Conversations over and about anything and everything makes you relieve the stress inside your body. It takes away unnecessary thoughts that invade your mind. It makes you think about things more deeply. Most importantly, you learn lessons in life that gets you through life’s challenges and difficulties.
The ones told after this paragraph are some of the lessons in life that all of us has to ponder on. These are things we do not learn in the four corners of the classroom but rather things we experience and we share, things that we have thought deeply and tried to understand, realizations that we have acknowledged and kept.
- Keep on loving. Love overcomes fear. It surpasses worries. Love will get you through everything you’re undergoing. Love overcomes it all.
There are these moments in our life when we get hurt, intentionally or unintentionally, declared or presumed, because circumstances led us to this kind of situation. And when we’re hurt, we tend to be irrational. All logical decisions get out of our mind and we become depressed, angry and impatient. But then in life, you don’t stop loving people. You just keep on showing them that you love them. Because once you don’t stop loving, you do everything to make those people you love feel loved. Just because you were hurt once doesn’t mean you have to stop all means of loving. To love is to get hurt. They both go hand in hand. So never stop loving. Because love will help you get over your fears, your hesitations, and your worries. Love will get you through everything, Love conquers all, as they say.
- Say what you want.
The person that can help you might just be waiting for somebody whom he/she can help. They’re out there to get you through with whatever you are facing. And that, maybe, in the process of helping you, you’re helping them as well as they accomplish their purpose his life. Blessed are those who have found someone or met someone who helped them with whatever they are facing without voicing out their concerns or worries. But it’s not something that happens always. In fact, it’s quite rare that a lot of people are taking their own life because they were drowned in fear, swallowed by pride and thus taking it all in by themselves. There are people who are blessed enough to meet someone who changed their life and made them become better.
- Overcome fear. Fear limits all of us. It gets you stuck in the moment.
You are quite afraid because you might face judgments. You might be misunderstood. Your words and feelings might be misconstrued. And those might be, those what if’s, are what’s keeping you from actually knowing what lies ahead of you. Fear is what’s dragging you down, getting you back to your comfort zone. Making your life mundane. So overcome that fear. Go out there and just live. Be alive.
- Accept but don’t expect. Live by the moment.
Sometimes you deprive yourself of things because you feel like you don’t deserve them. It seems like you’ve never accomplished anything yet so you don’t deserve to stop. You have to keep going. Everything has its own perfect timing. All things will fall into the right perspective. Just let things happen as it happens.
- “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.” – Steve Jobs
Those “had I not” statements brings enlightenment to what you are today. Had you not done this, you might not have gotten this and because you never got this, you never would have achieved this. You realize that the decisions you made somehow shaped you into who you are right now and what you do as well. Had you not undergone hard work, you might not have been appreciative of the good life that you are experiencing right now.
- Know yourself first. You will never understand people around you until you know who you are, what you are, and what you want.
It’s hard when you don’t know who you are. It’s quite a struggle when you want to know others more when the harsh reality is that you don’t even know yourself well. Know what you want in life. Discover who you are. Explore your strengths and weaknesses, what makes you happy and sad, what inspires you and what drags your mood down, what you want to achieve in the next 3 years, 5 years or 10 years, how you want to spend your life in old age and a lot more to be discovered.
- There are times when people need not just to be heard, they need to be answered.
Most of the time, people just want to be heard. They want others to listen to their rants and frustrations. But those are most of the times. There are those circumstances when answers are required. When it’s the solution that is looked after. Sympathy is good but empathy is better.
- Ask when you are confused.
Do not presume. Do not overthink. Most importantly, never ever assume. Because when you do, you make judgements base on your own observations and perceptions. Confirming that assumption is one thing, but regarding that assumption as the truth is a totally different story. You may think that a correct assumption is as good as the confirmation of the truth but it never is and it never will be. Because when you made that choice of accepting the correct assumption without confirmation, you gave up that chance already of having that opportunity to know what really happened and why it happened. Rather than thinking and analyzing everything, just ask. Do not analyze when there’s nothing to analyze and don’t conclude when nothing happened in the first place.
- Positivity is happiness. When you are positive, you radiate that kind of inspiring vibe that makes people do more, be more and go beyond their comfort zone.
Take away that negativity in your system. Be happy. When you drown yourself in thoughts of misery and despair, you alone are the one who brings in that toxic in your system. Do not allow negative things to overcome you. Do not let them invade your mind, your heart and your soul.
- Do what makes you happy.
You know you’re doing what makes you happy when you feel good and positive about it. When you don’t, then it doesn’t. They say smile is the universal language in the world and it is true. A smile can make someone’s day complete, no matter how cliché it sounds. A smile can make someone feel better. A smile can make a person feel like she’s been acknowledged, recognized and understood.