Most of the time we all just go on our own way, doing our own thing, being real and honest, wrapped in the idea taught in school, by our friends and peers, and other people of influence, that we should speak our minds, never to retreat and be open because those who would not understand the sincerity of our thoughts, ideas or inputs are quite narrow minded or perhaps not just very open to criticism and change. But later on we realize that it isn’t that simple; that honesty is rewarded and honored but speaking our minds all the time is not always a solution and action that one must take to succeed or be heard, perhaps acknowledged, if that’s the only course of response that should be considered. Sometimes, we fail to understand that beyond sincerity, honesty and truth and even integrity, we are all human beings ruled somehow not only by our mind, the intellect but also our emotions. As Plato once said, too much and too less of everything is evil and in such case, the practice of moderation should be observed. The points or thoughts I’d like to raise are things that we know already but are sometimes forgotten, probably disregarded, and yet these are little reminders that we should really consider when dealing with people, well not just in workplace, but dealing with people in general (although of course, I mentioned above that they are work etiquettes but anyway).
- We should have that initiative to somehow show the person (our teammate, leads, or managers) that they matter to the team, that we shouldn’t blatantly display your capability of surviving without that person. You don’t have to pretend that they are badly needed. It really isn’t necessary to be vocal about their importance. But we also don’t have to be vocal about their insignificance, no matter how sometimes true it could be.
All human beings have a certain degree of that need to feel needed. I know. It sounds selfish. It reeks of pride and self-importance. But human as we are, we have that need to be of help to others. Sometimes, we feel like we matter because some people rely on us to aid them. And when some people let us feel that they could survive without us, when some people let us feel like not having us around won’t affect anything really, especially in accomplishing workloads, that we are so independent we don’t need them anymore, it kind of make us feel insignificant and replaceable. It gives off that vibe of pride as well and boastfulness although sometimes it really is true and you don’t mean to sound like one. One thing I’ve learned in a workplace is that you have to treat each and one of the members of team that since it is a group effort, everybody’s presence, and effort and output matters.
2. When someone decides to leave the company to explore other opportunities or probably embark on a different path than what he currently has, never ever tell them that you are happy for them and that it’s really time they leave the company.
I know it sounds ironic since we are actually happy for them. They have decided to leave the company for some reasons and we are delighted that they have pursued their heart’s desire, cliché as it sounds. But then again, we don’t have to be so vocal about it or at least be too enthusiastic of that decision. Somehow, at some point, human beings have this desire to be held back, to have people who wants them around, to have those who would cling to them (again this go backs to that theory of human beings having that feeling of being needed). We don’t want them to feel like we don’t want them around anymore, even though we don’t feel that way. At some point, telling the person leaving the company was a good decision may make that person feel that he is not loved or appreciated and we don’t want that. We are happy for them and we want to support them to whatever endeavors they will have in life, just don’t overdo it.
3. If you have a problem with your teammate, confront them. Let them know directly the problem. It is never a good thing to tell it to another person so that that other person could confront the one you’re having a problem with.
Problems gets complicated when something that’s intended for only those who are concerned is made known to those who aren’t really involved, especially those who doesn’t really have that influence over that certain matter. It may not be easy, especially to those people who aren’t really good with confrontation, but somehow, when you explain these things in a very relaxed and professional way, one where the recipient would understand and realize the gravity of the situation, an appropriate approach to giving constructive criticisms, these people who are not confrontational will be able to understand it. If that person isn’t a face-to-face type, then one could just send an email. It’s how things are done these days and it makes it less embarrassing, which is somehow most of the reasons why these people are actually non-confrontational.
4. Rules are there for a reason. Follow them and abide with the policies and regulations, even though it seems like they aren’t reasonable in your case. Sometimes, we have this idea of those in the rank and file, but the people above us, our managers, leads and the HR have a different take altogether and though somehow it’s difficult, we have to really trust the system.
Sometimes, we may think that some rules doesn’t make sense. At some point, we feel like there are policies implemented that aren’t really necessary and that doing our job is the only important thing that should matter. However, there are situations and circumstances that have lead the policy makers and implementers, as well as those who authored these guidelines, to actually think of those. Some of us may think that they are too conservative and take too much precaution, but sometimes, it is better to be sure and be safe than sorry, as we would always hear.
5. Patience is always the key to success. So we must always believe that somehow, someday, things will come our way. Of course, we also have to be vigilant and consider our status, but somehow, we should consider and think thoroughly, that great things really do take time.
Being a millennial, I also am a victim of being a go-getter. Aiming for promotion, opportunities for responsibilities and responsibilities, project migrations and such that we sometimes can’t wait for the right time. After a few months or few years, we think that we are already ripe enough to be promoted, to have a salary raise, and so on. Sometimes, this is quite true. Somehow, there are those instances when it really just not. There are those who blooms late in their career but there are really those that are born to lead, to shine, to be the initiators. We all have different strengths. As I have said, sometimes we really do just have to trust the system, no matter how “used up line” it is.
These are just a few reminders. I know we know them already by heart but sometimes we have to be prompted for us to be pulled back to the reality of the business world. I know. Office politics will be always there. We just have to find the one that would fit us.