Lots of people are saying that moving on is important, that you can’t start anew unless you do. But what if you don’t have to? What if the feeling will always be there and you just have to understand the beauty of having that feeling and that it has become a part of who you have been?
And so lets answer the question, “Why can’t you really “move on” with the person you truly, dearly like? ”
Because he was that person who became the standard for every relationship that you’d like to get yourself involved in. He has everything you have always wanted with the person you want to fall in love with. He became the basis of everything you have ever dreamed of and though you shouldn’t really judge people, you could never avoid it nor could you deny that at some point you have or you had the tendency to compare those you have gone out with to that single person you have always desired and reveled.
Eventhough the actual person to whom you based your standards would become someone you can’t actually have and will never have, you’d always have that certain level of admiration for that person. You might not be one to get head over heels with that someone already but you will always think highly of him.
He became the person who is perfect for you. He is the one who complemented you. He was that someone you wanted to become. And in a lifetime, we could only find one person to whom we won’t get over with or probably in today’s term, “move on” or we could even say our first love. It’s hard. Espeecially when that person does the things you always had imagine for your future partner in life. Because then you would always cling to an unforeseen future. It might not be something really positive but its unpredictable. And the unpredictability of the situation makes it exciting but at the same time painful (if it doesnt happen the way you wanted it to be, or at least what you hoped to be).
And even the feelings you harbor doesn’t end in a good note, I’m pretty sure that the person you’re riveted to, the one you can’t move on from, your first love, will inspire you to do a lot of things you never thought you can do. The admiration you have for that person will give you the drive to discover yourself if not improve who you are and become a better version of you. The feelings you possess are too strong that it needs an outlet. It becomes like an excess energy to which you should utilize to do things that will help you grow as a person.
This is why moving on is not an option. You just have to acknowledge the fact that you truly admire that person. You have to understand that when one finds that someone to whom he or she would dote, it doesnt really go away because that person becomes the basis for a lot of things that goes on with one’slife. You might not yet totally understand now but when you do find your first love, you’ll find yourself accepting the feeling as it is.
People say you have to get on with yourl life, to forget, to have a brand new start. But you don’t necessarily have to. You just have to understabd the beauty of it, acknowledging it, accepting it but not embrace it. You have to see its importance in your life. And that it will hurt, it will hurt you so bad but its necessary because you will only gain true happiness when you finally feel what its like to be totally and completely hurt.