How do you build and keep a blissful relationship with people around you?

This is really common sense but as they all say, and I know reading this you are also rolling your eyes, it is not really common, at all. Anyway, this is quite true for all of us. We are all involved in a relationship. Nowadays, relationship is always correlated almost immediately to romantic affairs but you and I both know that it is not true. No.

Relationships are bond or connections you make with the people around you such as your friends, your family, your colleagues at work, classmates way back when you’re still studying, business partners, clients. There are a lot of them and it would be quite impractical to mention everything but you get what I mean. So, to the real question now is, how do you make sure you have the most sincere and reliable relationships around you and how do you preserve it? Here are some personal tips on how you can do it.

  1. Communication. Amongst everything, it is the most important aspect one has to consider and to really build upon.

Without this, you can’t even have relationships. Well maybe you could, perhaps because you belong in the same community, organization or whatsoever, but it is not really a relationship, to be honest, if you ask me. Gestures are ways of communication, nonverbal means are given, but then it doesn’t really establish a relationship. Seriously, anybody who consider it, I don’t know what to say. As I was saying, communication is very important in such a way, that despite a good start of interaction between two human beings, lack of communication for some amount of time (perhaps you both decided to give each other space) will both leave you at a situation where interaction is just too awkward maybe not impossible, but quite rare. I know. One just have to make the initiative but most of the time, it seems so foreign, the act of doing it, that actually putting it into action doesn’t just seem right.

2. Trust and understanding. Yes, cliché as it sounds, and I know you know this very well, but it is mostly forgotten and disregarded.

This is one of the hardest part of having a relationship. Please let me know if you happen not to lie, but I believe that all of us have said lies at some point in our life. And when we do, we endanger the relationship we have with the people we love. We get hurt when people lie to us or hide things from us, especially those close to us and close to our hearts even though we are not to them (one cannot be too sureJ ), so naturally they do too and a broken trust is just too hard to rebuild especially if it is with friends and relationships other than that of our family. Families are given. Yes we lie but they have this high tolerance for it in such a way that even though it is so hard to understand the situation where you need to twist the truth or hide it anyway, they will still believe in you no matter what, will be by your side whenever you encounter troubles and so on.

3. Patience. All of us have this just that we possess varying degrees of which and we reach our limit in a way that we lose every ounce of care we try to maintain.

I cannot enforce this to you but somehow I believe that one still needs that great deal of patience or consideration when dealing with feelings. It might appeal to you as impractical and nonsense but we are well aware that we possess different personalities, character, attitude and behavior towards things base from our own experience and histories. Having said this, what you consider and see as correct may not be the same with the other person. Likewise, what he or she considers as righteous or the right thing to do might be unacceptable to you. You have to be really careful in assessing things, especially those matters of the heart because they cannot be contained in a single rule nor you can measure them at a certain degree. You just have to be sensitive and empathetic, with the situation as well as the people involved.

4. Taking into consideration other people’s perspectives will greatly help you in preserving a well-started relationship.

When people say that you have to be in their shoes to understand their situation, it doesn’t just mean being in the situation. It means having their share of past experiences in life, their overall condition in all aspects may it be emotionally, physically, spiritually and so on and so forth. You have to really be who they are to understand why they did it, whether it is right or wrong. In short, you just can’t judge people. If you all experience the same thing you could but in most or in all cases, it’s not. You have to explore all possible options or views so you could really assess the situation well. There’s no single solution to the problems in this world. There are just best ones.


I’ve had my fair share of pretty good relationships but I also have those whom I had not preserved well. This article is the solid proof for that. I wish I could have turned back time and redo everything I did but I can’t. There are no rewinds in life. There aren’t even fast forwards. We just have to go along with our journey in this world and make the most out of it. It seems hard but I guess we just have to have that sense of control as well as life teaches us to make good decisions. If we failed then make better ones. The most important thing is we never give up in giving ourselves the chance to change, to improve, to grow. We just have to keep going on.



What happens when you get your heart broken?

What happens when you get your heart broken?


I know. This is quite a cliché, truly quite an obvious question with a truly, absurdly pathetic answer. But somehow we judge it automatically the way we do with people we just met. You might ask me, so what? Is there any relevance to that? Well, not so much actually, to be truly honest, but anyhow, what I’m trying to say is, we almost always see the negative side of which when in fact getting your heart broken allows you to do things that are mostly unimaginable and yet incredible. A broken heart in this context is not just one where you get into a relationship with someone else and then things went wrong which led to a break up. Having a broken heart may mean loving someone who doesn’t love you back (but that doesn’t mean that it’s the other party’s fault. Somehow you were just too hopeful that someday things will work out between the two of you.) It could also mean that you were close to someone but then for some unexplainable turn of events, both of you just parted ways, probably started off with giving each other space and eventually you just got further apart from each other. And with that, let me list down some of those proven effects when one gets her/his heart broken.

  1. You become a poet. (Well, probably not everyone, but for me and a few people I know who are in poetry, when we get depressed, we compose literatures that are more powerful and well-arranged.

When you get your heart broken, you conjure a lot of emotions inside. You feel anger, remorse, regrets, jealousy and then you also have moments of reminiscences, introspections, conspicuous assumptions, musings and a lot more. These emotions allows you to recall memories, conversations with that person who broke your heart and eventually these things are translated to words. Words with emotions are very powerful and even though some would say that actions are way better than words (Of course I know and acknowledge that), I believe that words coming from the heart, written or said, conveys a message that is true and sincere.

2. You learn to become better. (I know. This is one of those really so cliché answers but I’d take it on a different context. I hope I could, anyway. When I say you become better than what you are, you try to prove the other person that you are way ahead of his or her league. I know. It kind of sounds bitter, but it isn’t really. Well, you want that person to regret, or I don’t know, probably see you in a different light, but I tell you, it’s not just trying to change physically although that’s one. You mature. You transform into someone who is really independent, totally capable of making decisions, of making things happen, of accomplishing ambitions, of doing things his or her own way and not just relying on others.

3. You get to experience all those moments you can see on the movies without the intention of doing it. It may not be applicable to everybody but for me it did really happen. Those emotional scenes where you just stare at nothing, thinking of the things you use to have with that person, those moments where the character slowly breaks down, drags his back lower in a wall and just cry his heart out, scenarios where one gets to really bargain that things might just go back to the way it used to be.

4. You never make the same mistakes again. Well, probably similar, but not the exact mistake because then you would always remember the things that took place and it would really, truly remind you, zap you and it would hurt, a lot. You wouldn’t go back to it. Never. And it will really stay. It will always be at the back of your head (not literally of course, but you get what I mean)

5. You know how to move on already when the time comes when you get to experience it again. Having already the experience allows you to have a first-hand approach on what exactly to do. They say experience is the best teacher and it is. It never goes wrong. It’s very personal. It’s close to your heart.


So that’s it for me. With that, it would hurt, and you will never be really prepared for the pain it will cause you, but it would be an experience for life when you do get your heart broken. They say, when you love someone, on a romantic level, the first one will be the one you’d play or well, you would probably be the first one to broke his or heart. The second one will break your heart. But the third, hopefully your last, would be the one you would truly love and most probably the one who would love you as well the most. So be scared. Take chances. Keep on fighting. Live the life you’re given to the fullest.



Simple Work Etiquettes to Remember

Most of the time we all just go on our own way, doing our own thing, being real and honest, wrapped in the idea taught in school, by our friends and peers, and other people of influence, that we should speak our minds, never to retreat and be open because those who would not understand the sincerity of our thoughts, ideas or inputs are quite narrow minded or perhaps not just very open to criticism and change. But later on we realize that it isn’t that simple; that honesty is rewarded and honored but speaking our minds all the time is not always a solution and action that one must take to succeed or be heard, perhaps acknowledged, if that’s the only course of response that should be considered. Sometimes, we fail to understand that beyond sincerity, honesty and truth and even integrity, we are all human beings ruled somehow not only by our mind, the intellect but also our emotions. As Plato once said, too much and too less of everything is evil and in such case, the practice of moderation should be observed. The points or thoughts I’d like to raise are things that we know already but are sometimes forgotten, probably disregarded, and yet these are little reminders that we should really consider when dealing with people, well not just in workplace, but dealing with people in general (although of course, I mentioned above that they are work etiquettes but anyway).


  1. We should have that initiative to somehow show the person (our teammate, leads, or managers) that they matter to the team, that we shouldn’t blatantly display your capability of surviving without that person. You don’t have to pretend that they are badly needed. It really isn’t necessary to be vocal about their importance. But we also don’t have to be vocal about their insignificance, no matter how sometimes true it could be.

All human beings have a certain degree of that need to feel needed. I know. It sounds selfish. It reeks of pride and self-importance. But human as we are, we have that need to be of help to others. Sometimes, we feel like we matter because some people rely on us to aid them. And when some people let us feel that they could survive without us, when some people let us feel like not having us around won’t affect anything really, especially in accomplishing workloads, that we are so independent we don’t need them anymore, it kind of make us feel insignificant and replaceable. It gives off that vibe of pride as well and boastfulness although sometimes it really is true and you don’t mean to sound like one. One thing I’ve learned in a workplace is that you have to treat each and one of the members of team that since it is a group effort, everybody’s presence, and effort and output matters.

2. When someone decides to leave the company to explore other opportunities or probably embark on a different path than what he currently has, never ever tell them that you are happy for them and that it’s really time they leave the company.

I know it sounds ironic since we are actually happy for them. They have decided to leave the company for some reasons and we are delighted that they have pursued their heart’s desire, cliché as it sounds. But then again, we don’t have to be so vocal about it or at least be too enthusiastic of that decision. Somehow, at some point, human beings have this desire to be held back, to have people who wants them around, to have those who would cling to them (again this go backs to that theory of human beings having that feeling of being needed). We don’t want them to feel like we don’t want them around anymore, even though we don’t feel that way. At some point, telling the person leaving the company was a good decision may make that person feel that he is not loved or appreciated and we don’t want that. We are happy for them and we want to support them to whatever endeavors they will have in life, just don’t overdo it.

3. If you have a problem with your teammate, confront them. Let them know directly the problem. It is never a good thing to tell it to another person so that that other person could confront the one you’re having a problem with.

Problems gets complicated when something that’s intended for only those who are concerned is made known to those who aren’t really involved, especially those who doesn’t really have that influence over that certain matter. It may not be easy, especially to those people who aren’t really good with confrontation, but somehow, when you explain these things in a very relaxed and professional way, one where the recipient would understand and realize the gravity of the situation, an appropriate approach to giving constructive criticisms, these people who are not confrontational will be able to understand it. If that person isn’t a face-to-face type, then one could just send an email. It’s how things are done these days and it makes it less embarrassing, which is somehow most of the reasons why these people are actually non-confrontational.

4. Rules are there for a reason. Follow them and abide with the policies and regulations, even though it seems like they aren’t reasonable in your case. Sometimes, we have this idea of those in the rank and file, but the people above us, our managers, leads and the HR have a different take altogether and though somehow it’s difficult, we have to really trust the system.

Sometimes, we may think that some rules doesn’t make sense. At some point, we feel like there are policies implemented that aren’t really necessary and that doing our job is the only important thing that should matter. However, there are situations and circumstances that have lead the policy makers and implementers, as well as those who authored these guidelines, to actually think of those. Some of us may think that they are too conservative and take too much precaution, but sometimes, it is better to be sure and be safe than sorry, as we would always hear.

5. Patience is always the key to success. So we must always believe that somehow, someday, things will come our way. Of course, we also have to be vigilant and consider our status, but somehow, we should consider and think thoroughly, that great things really do take time.

Being a millennial, I also am a victim of being a go-getter. Aiming for promotion, opportunities for responsibilities and responsibilities, project migrations and such that we sometimes can’t wait for the right time. After a few months or few years, we think that we are already ripe enough to be promoted, to have a salary raise, and so on. Sometimes, this is quite true. Somehow, there are those instances when it really just not. There are those who blooms late in their career but there are really those that are born to lead, to shine, to be the initiators. We all have different strengths. As I have said, sometimes we really do just have to trust the system, no matter how “used up line” it is.

These are just a few reminders. I know we know them already by heart but sometimes we have to be prompted for us to be pulled back to the reality of the business world. I know. Office politics will be always there. We just have to find the one that would fit us.


People You Get to Interact with in a Workplace by Ezelle Joy Rosal

People who seem flawed but those you can actually learn from…

These people will mostly likely be present in different organizations, in different levels and degrees. But they’re there, may it be a subtle appearance or a bold personification.

The Minx

They are the ones who are actually gifted with confidence, not just on meager amounts but in abundance. They’re the ones whom you’ll see flirting with almost everyone, they even do it more with those who are in higher positions. They’re like panthers, sneaky and loves to purr and place their hands on things which they know will benefit them in the future. They are these people who wear conservative, totally all too formal clothes but totally transforms during companies’ after parties. They don’t care whether the manager is too old for them, has a family, or just exclusively unavailable, they just dance their way in for instant opportunities. They’re not usually pretty but mind you it doesn’t stop them from taking action. And this is what you learn from them, to be totally confident; confidence to grab the opportunity that comes their way and making almost, if not all, situation as an opportunity. Don’t wait for the world’s confirmation that you are good enough, that you deserve to be rewarded, but show the world that indeed you are good enough and even show them that you are indeed the best. Show them that you are one of a kind and you are doing great and still have something to show, to achieve. Don’t let one negative comment ruin all the positive ones you received Somehow it becomes one of the few secrets that goes together with confidence.


The Goody Two Shoes

I always hear them in children’s fight. But this comment does not only apply to kids. Most definitely, it also applies in the real world, specifically in your own work place or soon to be work place. They go by the book, they go by the rules, and seriously I’m being totally sarcastic here. They don’t really go by the book and by the rules, not everyone could actually do that 100%, but they just seem to be. They’re the ones who acts like they follow the company policies and expects everyone to do the same. They’re the company police, the unofficial police for that matter, people who tell-tales everyone who seems not nonconforming to the rules. He is focused on doing just that and ends up having other people get poorly judged by others, especially the higher management just because of that one piece of information that may or may not be true. It could be one simple act of mistake and they get punished for the rest of their stay in the company. He doesn’t however like to confront people but usually disses other people to the management at everybody’s back, to either earn points, or simply earn the managements “trust” since those above can have one trusted mole inside. Even with all these, you actually learn something from them. You must somehow, at all costsm conform to the rules as they are there for a reason, which is either to teach us patience, fortitude or protect us from the dangers of having too much freedom. Also the most important lesson you can learn from them is that in a working environment in the real world, you must always watch your back. You can’t always trust people, sometimes you can’t even trust yourself, especially when it’s your career that’s on the line. Sometimes we are either pushed to do things and to step on things or people just to get ahead. There will always be that one point in your life, as they said it will always be survival of the fittest.


The Competitor

This person sees everyone as a competition, like a lion waiting to take on a gazelle. Competition whether it’s about a new watch you bought, a new shirt you tried, a gift you recently received and most of all an award you have constantly been receiving for the past few Awards and Recognition events. He is that lazy person who wants to compete but doesn’t even try. He wants to win any battle without working hard for it and hate other people who are actually winning. He hates that you get to be praised, trusted, and one whom people cling to. Even when they do not know what to do. Moreover, you get out of your way to help them, but then they just don’t want it because they have too much pride to accept it. They’re this lazy people who just competes for the purpose of being recognized. They do it not because they’re passionate about it but because they simply just want attention. They are those people who hate passionate people because they do things without thinking of anything in return but then they are still recognized and praised. One thing is certain for sure, they hate you not because they hate who you are but because they hate themselves for not being like you. They hate that they are not as passionate and as hard working as you are. Beneath the façade is someone insecure because they want things the easier way. Even then, I am still learning from them. That is, you will learn that competition changes everything, that somehow competition brings good and positive results. It will drive one person to improve more, to look for ways to excel further, to better themselves, and to tap into their undiscovered skill sets. Competition brings forth creativity as it feeds somehow from ego.


The Manipulator

This one you should take note as you will definitely learn a lot from them. These people usually are the ones who gets promoted easily, those who are close to the upper management and are even the ones with the higher management. They get most of the benefits that normal employees won’t easily get to avail since they have this special treatment that even they could not deny, and you know why? First, they’re good with identifying the people who they can benefit the most, who they can manipulate into working with them and achieving success. They’re those people who can easily identify talents and skill sets in one glance. They know who to tap, where to get it and who can do it better or even best. They know the people in the company well, studies their individual strengths and weaknesses, their individual attitude and work ethics as well as working principles. They study individual capabilities, skills and individual passion. They even go as far as trying and testing them through various activities in which they can engage the employee in. If they see something beneficial to them or shall I say someone, they develop a bond with, they create a good and profitable working relationship and get as much idea from them as possible. They casually ask for creative minds and extort from them brilliant ways on how to improve processes and how to further improve operations. They are good with implementing this and realizing projects that they end up claiming those ideas as their own. They just know how to manipulate almost everything. Despite that, there are still things which you can learn from them. Observe people, as sometimes the secret to success is understanding people, taking a closer look at them, how they behave, act, make decisions, do things, those sorts of activities and get ideas from them. You will always need inputs from others not just your own. Collective ideas are almost always beneficial.

The Politician

This one kind of describes who I am as a person at work. They even tease me and call me Miss Congeniality border line fake. This kind almost knows everyone in the company and almost everyone knows him/her as well. You are the “I want to help everyone type”, almost talking to everyone with that loud voice but definitely a bummer when there are people who doesn’t want to talk to you, or talk to people you don’t even really like. You talk to them just for the sake of not making any mess, but do you like every one of them? Definitely not! I can say that you don’t like at least 20% percent of them and you’re just actually being civil and stay interactive because you might not know when you’ll actually need their help. There would come a time that you might need some of their help that is why you stay as respectful as possible, when in reality you two are backside enemies. But one thing you can actually learn from people like me is to stay professional. You do not want enemies at work because it will somehow create unnecessary blocks on the company’s work flow process.



Talk About Finances


Too often people complain that there’s not just enough salary to provide for their needs, not enough money to pay the bills, not enough resources to support their basic necessities. But most of the time, it’s not that you don’t have enough inputs to your resources. It’s usually that you want so many things that you go beyond your means. Usually, it’s because you want to acquire things that goes beyond what is just necessary. I believe that increase in one’s resources, may it be monetary or not, will not resolve the issues that most encounter. We were brought forth into a society that leads us to this school of thought that we never realize that more than these things, the most important thing we need to learn first is to manage whatever we have, especially resources that involves our finances.


People tend to avoid talks about money and things that involve one’s capacity to spend or to purchase, to acquire the necessities as well as those that one wants, desires and dreams of getting in the future. There are too many avenues in which we can learn about these things and yet a few people grab the opportunity just because it strikes that side of ours who doesn’t want to accept reality and hide behind that façade that all things are well, and if not, that all things will get better. I don’t mean it to be wrong. In fact, we need to have that hope that all things will get better but not to that point where we actually don’t do anything because we’re just waiting for time to turn around and that maybe, it is now our time to be successful and to have the things that we want.


Most of the time, it’s the changing lifestyle of people that makes it difficult to manage finances. With technology rapidly changing, wants changing drastically, morals taking the sideline or the back of the scenes, people have these tendencies to go beyond what they need.


Just a quick snippet of how my life was and is right now, I went thru that stage where I’m earning as low as those of the minimum wage earners, not of those in the metro cities but with the provinces rate. I would not disclose specifics but it’s too small, as I compare it to what I’m earning right now, and yet I was able to survive for at least a year and a half. Then I changed careers, had a slight increase in what I’m earning, and still, I’m able to provide for myself, pay my bills and sometimes give when I have that spare. I keep on changing careers since I was not productive with the change and I had that need eventually to shift again. Again, another increase in what I earn, still not able to compensate to what I’m earning currently and yet everything is provided, I have all my necessities. Then came an opportunity to work in a company that offered me a salary that, for some might not be that high, but for me it’s already more than enough, almost twice as what I’m earning with the past three companies I am affiliated with, and yet I had that moment where I had nothing, I don’t have a penny in my pocket, that I was so ashamed of myself. I earn more than the others and yet I’m broke.

I remembered a conversation with somebody who told me that that person finds it incomprehensible how others can be comfortable in being broke all the time, in waiting for the next pay out just to live for the next 15 days. I know we have this saying of living life to the fullest, of live while you’re young, of living the day as if it’s your last but what if it’s not? What if the next day you wake up, without anything, with no money to pay for rent or to buy food?


A recollection of a conversation I have with my mom as well when she was telling me and my sister that maybe we need to learn to feed for ourselves, that others are better off selling scraps, taking trash and asking money for the service provided and so on and so forth. Then I realize, these people, those blue collared workers, would survive when things get difficult, that they will take any job just to feed their hungry stomach. And yet, not generalizing, but most white collared people would find it difficult to do physical jobs, those that require you to be in the bottom of the social pyramid.


What I’m trying to say is that before we ask for our increases in our resources, before we ask for a raise in salary, we should be able to manage our finances, our needs and most importantly, the unnecessary wants that society tells us as part of what we need instead of being a part of the ‘wants’. Because not having this, not having the knowledge and the resolve to actually manage them, we’ll still be stuck to what we are.


A financial pyramid that has been used by most financial planners in their consultancies with clients points five stages that create our personal finance management. It is important that we know we are able to provide for our basic necessities such as food, shelter, utilities and clothing. Education already became a necessity but basically, food, shelter and clothing are the most necessary things that we need to acquire first and to ensure that we have them. That becomes the foreground, the bedrock of the financial pyramid.


After we have all our basic necessities, we have to think about our safety, of the future (and not just think that tomorrow you might die so you have to spend everything today because that kind of mindset is foolishness) and so there’s a necessity for us to have insurances, budget, emergency funds and most importantly a permanent job that can provide us a stable income that will keep the sustenance for our basic necessities.


In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, people have that need of love and belongingness. In financial pyramid, we translate as something in which you give, you share and you contribute something to the community. A cliché statement, one that we often hear, reminds us that no man is an island and so we have that implied responsibility to give back to the society, one that the corporate calls for us social responsibility. It’s not a responsibility per se but it’s something that we ought to do.


Given that you have already established your basic necessities, security and that sense of love and belongingness, man in his nature have that need to improve his self-worth. That’s where your savings and investment comes in. You have to capitalize on something which is your own. It brings a surge of overwhelming and swelling pride when you have put up something for yourself. It makes you be inspired to do more and have more, not just for yourself but also for others, to put up something not just for you and for your family , but eventually for those less privilege as well.


And eventually, you achieve your self-actualization translated as financial independence, that sense of freedom where you don’t wait for the next payout, or check your pay slip once in a while or resort to borrowing from those who put so high interest because it’s your only option.


Quoting someone’s words, “I want us not to be limited in what we want. I want us to be free. I know I might be talking a lot about money, finances and freedom but I want us to achieve our dreams and goals and not to realize them just because our resources are holding us back.”





Business: A Necessity

Going over the topic I was assigned last weekend, I found it interesting to talk about business. The word is so common, is used both as an object and an action. However, it has also become entity that has taken on its own identity and importance in the society.

As Google defines it, a business is an organizational entity involved in the provision of goods and services to consumers. Some calls it enterprise. Others, firm or company. Either way, business is broad that it encompasses a lot of things and has been detrimental to the society.

Business has been very essential in the society. It has taken a role into providing growth and development for the public’s welfare. It has also become a tool towards man’s greatest achievement and that is to achieve self-actualization, in whatever ways you would want self-actualization to be translated.

Doing business or having a business on the other hand is never easy. It’s not just being able to think out of the box or intuitively and you can do business almost immediately. Business is also a mind game. It needs that rational capability of a person for it to be effective and efficient. Unlike the generations of long time ago, needs became complex nowadays. Though things are easier and faster today, the means by which they were made to what they are today have transcended in such a way that the exchange between the one needing something and the one having that thing or has the capacity to acquire those things became an intertwined web of connections and transactions.

Business does not just grow out of nothing. It has its roots and source as well as guiding principles that enables it to redirect and focus the mind to what the society needs, without sacrificing the established businesses. These principles became the groundwork for how to go about having and doing business.

Not only did business became a fundamental social process it has also contributed to the economy thus having that economic function. Lastly, new development and discovery have been established. This is the reason why businesses became corporate entities. Not only one person contributed to what it has become now but a group of people driven towards achieving a common goal.

Since business became fundamental in the social process, it fills up the gap of someone’s self-actualization. Utilizing business as catalyst for change and improvement paved the way for man becoming perfect in order of being and operation. Though man has too many limitations, it has never hindered man from achieving and manifesting what can be called as closest to perfection.

Understanding business is to realize that the importance of business in the society which is us, consumers is one of the best ways to thrive in the market.

Man, will always aspire for human perfection. Perfection could either be in the form of excelling physically, intellectually and other aspects of human activity. He desires to possess, to learn, to be beautiful, to succeed, and to achieve.

In the desires for perfection and lack of certain things, there arises a need to seek complements. There are people whose goods obtained are beyond what they need however some have that overwhelming of feeling such certain kind of good.

With this, business fills in the gap between those who has the goods and those who needs it, a mediator between the producer and the consumer, the intermediary between buyer and the seller.

Business is a structure, a corporate activity undertaken to produce and distribute goods and services where there exist the goal for profit but also the risk for loss. Nowadays, trend for business has shifted into ways and possibilities that we never imagined it will obtain. Technology has paved the way not only for convenience in transactions but likewise shift in the business paradigm, society’s needs and wants as well as growth in industries in terms of production and distribution.




Millennial Skippers

Getting a job today is quite different from years ago. Before, it is a tangible need for somebody to get a degree so that he can have a secured job, a consistent salary and a guaranteed retirement fund at the age of 60. It is one’s pride to have a bachelor’s degree and a license so that one can be called a professional. However, times have changed. Industries have taken such toll in developing their operations such that resources will be maximized and utilized at its paramount.

most executives, managers, supervisors and those coming from the upper hierarchical level, especially those who belong in the generation which places great importance on values, believe that giving weight to intangible attributes of an employee should out stand the output provided and performance in terms of numbers and volumes. They believe that character should be the most valuable thing in the workplace.

This is true. In fact, it is an incontestable reality that has withstood challenges in the business industry. However, times have changed. Workers today, especially millennials have different perspectives on how one should be given merit to. Millennials have a different outlook on what would make them esteem people, entities and positions. The difference on how those on the executive and managerial level as compared to those in the rank and file think somehow affects the operations in the workplace.

Millennials see merit as something that should be given to those who actually deserve it, those who have been outstanding through their outputs as well as the efforts extended. For a millennial to look up to you and see you as someone who should be respected and be awed at, you have to walk the talk. You have to do beyond what they are able to do.  If you are in a high position, you should have knowledge on how your rank and files do and be aware of what is actually happening in the operations. You should look into everybody and everybody means each employee that you hold, may that person be working at average, below average or exceptionally. And that you should not just look, observe and you’ve done your job already but you also look for ways where they grow, where they can improve, where their work is acknowledged and recognized.

This is the reason why most millennials have a limited time span for staying in any company. One year is enough for them. Two years of not being able to see any future at your workplace is quite a challenge at its best. Three years and beyond is already dragging and if you know any millennial who stays beyond that, retaining a rank and file position, then something must have been holding that person, something that is inevitable.  A millennial would know when he or she is given importance such that when you don’t, he would not think twice on jumping ships and takes another path towards a “greener pasture”, cliche as it is.

But the most dangerous thing that could happen to a skipper millennial is that he will always go back to being in a rank and file position, especially that the most number of years he has stayed in a company is only a year, or two perhaps. Supervisory and managerial level positions require that either you left your previous company at that level already or you have enough experience in a company such that you are an expert in your field of industry. And when one has experiences already, especially one where that person holds an important job or task, getting into an entry level is a big challenge. He may not see it as a significant part of accepting the job yet. But when he is already there, and realizing that he is totally replaceable and a lot of people can do his job, he will feel insignificant and worst unimportant.

He may do his best and excel in what he do, but at the end of the day it will all go back to that simple fact that his work is too easy, anybody can replace him and anyone can do his job, maybe even better than he can. Being recognized and acknowledged is very important and when one is neglected, it affects how he see his role in the company. It will affect how he produces output such that, at some point, some employees who are really good have the tendency to settle to being a mediocre because they wouldn’t be notice anyway. Nobody cares about what they do or how they are doing so far with their job.

This is why supervisors have that vital of supposedly looking into these things and consider them such that it shouldn’t be all about how much work could be done or if it can be done at all. Nor it shouldn’t be just about reaching a target or going beyond quota. Of course these things are important and should be the ultimate goal, but alongside, considering what your employees feel, where they are coming from, how much effort they’ve put into will also be helpful in improving operations and also its efficiency as well.

Maybe it’s not actually an issue any firm should really consider. There are enough workforce supply to last them a lifetime. Thousands are graduating from universities and colleges. Skills, mastery and familiarity are just a few that employees who have stayed in a company for quite some time have already but then, it may just take months for these things to be acquired, right?

Different views. Different perspectives. How any firm would weigh all of these aspects, balance and put them all into consideration is something that they should have thought well of.

In the end, it’s all about who needs what or whom the most. The Law of Supply and Demand. Firms who have more applicants than they can cater of has the option, has choices but it is the same with the employees or applicants as well who have offers waiting to be accepted or declined. Timing is everything. You really have to be sure of the choices that you would make and stand up for it as well.