Signs of Guys Who Make Girls Fall For Them

 

Most girls get attracted to guys not just by mere physical appearance or physique (although looks sometimes really do matter). Character, nowadays, become a factor for somebody to be attracted to a certain person. So where am I going with this? There are guys who are just too admirable by their nature that for some, it seems natural to them although it gives off a different vibe to other people. But there are others also who knows this for a fact, and use it to their advantage to be surrounded by people and to have the attention they are looking for.

 

Lately, observations and realizations allowed me to prepare this little notes to ponder as you, girls, encounter guys who are very easy to get along with and makes you feel special, but doesn’t have the intention of pursuing you or establishing a relationship with you for that matter. Listed down are some characteristics of guys who intentionally or unintentionally for some, make girls fall for them.

 

  1. Charmer – Most of these guys have lots of sense of humor. They are easy to get along with. They have lots of things to tell you. You can listen to them nonstop. You can’t seem to get your eyes off them. You pay attention to everything they say, to every move they make and to every smile they give.

 

  1. Gentleman – These guys do things that are rare these days, doing simple things that other guys never thought of doing simply because either they are too laze or they just don’t care. They are the one who asks you how you’re doing, what you’ve been up to lately. They ask trivial things about you. These are also the guys who pays attention to you when they are actually with you. They put an effort in getting to know you. They like to make you feel that you matter or that somebody has noticed you.

 

  1. Urbane- These are the type of guys to whom everything comes easy. It’s not hard for them to make friends, to mingle, to be around people. They are natural charmers. To have conversations are their natural inclinations. Interaction with people becomes their norm.

 

  1. Witty – These kind of guys are smart, may not be in books (although most of them are really intelligent) but in life, and a guy who has this kind of intellect becomes very attractive for a girl and girls easily fall for guys who has this character. It seems so easy for them to make quick and smart decisions. They have ideas which may seem common, and probably something we knew too, but one where you never thought of it, until they did.

 

  1. Nice Guy – These are the kind of guys who can sweep you off your feet because they seem to be always in the good mood and they are always enjoying life. They never seem to be offended with anything. They’re naturally sweet and kind. You rarely see them get pissed off. They always have a smile plastered on their face.

 

When you meet guys who has the above five distinguishing character, then most likely, you’ve met the guy who would make you fall but will never catch you. They will never promise anything. But they do things that just makes you fall for them anyway.

 

These guys are the kind who never promises anything but says everything you hope to hear. They’re the kind who makes you feel everything that you are anticipating to feel. They are the kind who does everything that you’re expecting to see.

 

Most of the time they don’t fail your expectations. In fact, sometimes, they do beyond what you’ve imagined from them to do. But you have never been, are, and never will be together. He’s just nice, not just to you but to everyone else. He’s just naturally sweet and charming.

 

But here you are, expecting; a hopeful girl wishing she’d be noticed by this very charming guy. And yes, you can blame yourself for feeling those things but these are unavoidable. It comes off naturally from you. Girls are inclined to be emotional thus having that tendency to fall easily, deeply and readily.

 

Yet what makes all of these still being a positive thing is that you get inspired. The feelings you harbor make you happy. They make you happy. And despite the negative notions for this matter, I believe that things that makes people happy and alive are good. Sometimes, we just need a little bit of those things in life to make our existence here in this world just a little bit brighter.

10 Things You Learn in Late Night Conversations

 

When you are around with people who inspires you to become the better version of yourself, or rather, be the best version of yourself, you allow yourself to dream big and be big, to do more and be more, to go out there and be out there. When you find these people, never stop loving them. If you can’t tell them how much they mean to you, show it. If you can’t say you miss them, spend some time with them. If you can’t say out loud that you love them, reflect your actions to what you actually feel.

 

Conversations over and about anything and everything makes you relieve the stress inside your body. It takes away unnecessary thoughts that invade your mind. It makes you think about things more deeply. Most importantly, you learn lessons in life that gets you through life’s challenges and difficulties.

 

The ones told after this paragraph are some of the lessons in life that all of us has to ponder on. These are things we do not learn in the four corners of the classroom but rather things we experience and we share, things that we have thought deeply and tried to understand, realizations that we have acknowledged and kept.

 

  1. Keep on loving. Love overcomes fear. It surpasses worries. Love will get you through everything you’re undergoing. Love overcomes it all.

There are these moments in our life when we get hurt, intentionally or unintentionally, declared or presumed, because circumstances led us to this kind of situation. And when we’re hurt, we tend to be irrational. All logical decisions get out of our mind and we become depressed, angry and impatient. But then in life, you don’t stop loving people. You just keep on showing them that you love them. Because once you don’t stop loving, you do everything to make those people you love feel loved. Just because you were hurt once doesn’t mean you have to stop all means of loving. To love is to get hurt. They both go hand in hand. So never stop loving. Because love will help you get over your fears, your hesitations, and your worries. Love will get you through everything, Love conquers all, as they say.

 

  1. Say what you want.

The person that can help you might just be waiting for somebody whom he/she can help. They’re out there to get you through with whatever you are facing. And that, maybe, in the process of helping you, you’re helping them as well as they accomplish their purpose his life. Blessed are those who have found someone or met someone who helped them with whatever they are facing without voicing out their concerns or worries. But it’s not something that happens always. In fact, it’s quite rare that a lot of people are taking their own life because they were drowned in fear, swallowed by pride and thus taking it all in by themselves. There are people who are blessed enough to meet someone who changed their life and made them become better.

 

  1. Overcome fear. Fear limits all of us. It gets you stuck in the moment.

You are quite afraid because you might face judgments. You might be misunderstood. Your words and feelings might be misconstrued. And those might be, those what if’s, are what’s keeping you from actually knowing what lies ahead of you. Fear is what’s dragging you down, getting you back to your comfort zone. Making your life mundane. So overcome that fear. Go out there and just live. Be alive.

 

  1. Accept but don’t expect. Live by the moment.

Sometimes you deprive yourself of things because you feel like you don’t deserve them. It seems like you’ve never accomplished anything yet so you don’t deserve to stop. You have to keep going. Everything has its own perfect timing. All things will fall into the right perspective. Just let things happen as it happens.

 

  1. “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.” – Steve Jobs

Those “had  I not” statements brings enlightenment to what you are today. Had you not done this, you might not have gotten this and because you never got this, you never would have achieved this. You realize that the decisions you made somehow shaped you into who you are right now and what you do as well. Had you not undergone hard work, you might not have been appreciative of the good life that you are experiencing right now.

 

  1. Know yourself first. You will never understand people around you until you know who you are, what you are, and what you want.

It’s hard when you don’t know who you are. It’s quite a struggle when you want to know others more when the harsh reality is that you don’t even know yourself well. Know what you want in life. Discover who you are. Explore your strengths and weaknesses, what makes you happy and sad, what inspires you and what drags your mood down, what you want to achieve in the next 3 years, 5 years or 10 years, how you want to spend your life in old age and a lot more to be discovered.

 

  1. There are times when people need not just to be heard, they need to be answered.

Most of the time, people just want to be heard. They want others to listen to their rants and frustrations. But those are most of the times. There are those circumstances when answers are required. When it’s the solution that is looked after. Sympathy is good but empathy is better.

 

  1. Ask when you are confused.

Do not presume. Do not overthink. Most importantly, never ever assume. Because when you do, you make judgements base on your own observations and perceptions. Confirming that assumption is one thing, but regarding that assumption as the truth is a totally different story. You may think that a correct assumption is as good as the confirmation of the truth but it never is and it never will be. Because when you made that choice of accepting the correct assumption without confirmation, you gave up that chance already of having that opportunity to know what really happened and why it happened. Rather than thinking and analyzing everything, just ask. Do not analyze when there’s nothing to analyze and don’t conclude when nothing happened in the first place.

 

  1. Positivity is happiness. When you are positive, you radiate that kind of inspiring vibe that makes people do more, be more and go beyond their comfort zone.

Take away that negativity in your system. Be happy. When you drown yourself in thoughts of misery and despair, you alone are the one who brings in that toxic in your system. Do not allow negative things to overcome you. Do not let them invade your mind, your heart and your soul.

 

  1. Do what makes you happy.

You know you’re doing what makes you happy when you feel good and positive about it. When you don’t, then it doesn’t. They say smile is the universal language in the world and it is true. A smile can make someone’s day complete, no matter how cliché it sounds. A smile can make someone feel better. A smile can make a person feel like she’s been acknowledged, recognized and understood.

 

When You Should Already Say What You Actually Feel

They say that to be honest to what you actually feel is the most wonderful thing you can ever give to yourself and to other people. They say that when you say what’s on your mind, say if you like somebody or hate as well, then you free yourself from regrets and possibilities that will never happen when you keep your mouth close and you just let things be unsaid. But what if you’re honesty was construed as lie? What if your attempt at saying what you actually feel becomes dishonesty for the person you’ve said those words? Below are some situations where you ought to really say what you actually feel.

 

  1. When you know you’ve sorted out already your feelings, you’ve considered the other person’s feelings too and you’ve understood the current situation and what has actually transpired

 

Before you say anything else, think. Stop before responding. Pause before actually saying anything else. Words may just be a few percentage of how you express your feelings but words linger in a person’s mind, sticks to people either like a drug or a poison and something that can either build you as a person or break you as well. You might say that they’re just words but they can affect you in ways you never imagine it would. If you cannot be totally sure of what you feel, the least you can do is to stand true to what you said. Avoid recanting your words. Consider other people’s feelings. Before taking any action put yourself first in their situation. Think and act like them. If you feel like what they ought to do should be the one you think they should, then tell them about it. But if you tried putting yourself in their situation and your perception changed, maybe you have to think it through first analyze what actually happened. Lastly, take time recalling what happened and how it happened. Try to understand why it happened instead of pointing fingers immediately. The best thing you can do in situations where there is argument is to provide benefit of the doubt to other person while understanding the consequence of what happened.

 

  1. When your limitation was reached and you can’t bear it any longer

 

A famous quote says, “Patience is a virtue.” And while some say that to be patient is just a waste of time, patience develops in us that ability to be more conscientious and understanding of every situation, event and people, in general. It allows a person to comprehend more on what took place and not make any rash decisions. There are people who are impatient, who wants answers and actions right away. But sometimes, there’s a need to invest time for things that are intangible, things that are more valuable, things that money can’t buy, no matter cliché that line sounds. Taking action almost immediately is good, in fact it makes life easier. However, situation call for that need to take our time slowly, especially on making decisions that are matters of the heart. But also remember that you have to set your limitation. You have to know when to say “Enough” because what happens for others is just the limits get extended several times, you lose your control over yourself eventually.

 

  1. When you’re ready enough to face the consequence and accept it no matter what happens

 

When saying what you actually feel becomes detrimental to the future that you have envisioned for yourself, and if saying what you really feel becomes necessary and not just something that you would like to do because it would save you from some guilt that kept you occupied for some time already, then it becomes a need to actually say what you feel. Honesty requires courage, especially when it’s the matter of the heart. So if you feel like you can already stand by for what you believe is true and real, let it out and stick to it. Everything will have their own consequence. Accept it. Embrace it. Some matters of the heart might be too painful, but you just have to face reality and move on with it.

 

Those are probably just few of the circumstances where there is that necessity of telling people what you actually feel. It’s good to be honest with your feelings. But because we’re humans, we are emotional and sometimes, unreasonable and irrational. With this, we have to pick the right time to admit, to confront and to arrive at a mutual decision. It would not be easy but thinking about the things listed above, you might find yourself in an environment that fits each other perfectly and complements them the say too. It will be a challenge but it’s something that we all should ponder about and think thoroughly about.

Simple Steps on How to be Happy

With all the drama and chaos in the world, most often if not always, we worry too much about the world. We simply think too much about it and complicate things that are usually too easy to decipher, problems that will always have solutions, dilemmas than can easily be resolved and the list goes on and on. We hold on too much with the past that we often forget that we’re living in the present.  We’re putting unnecessary efforts on things that should not bother us.

Ideally, we should be able to avoid the things that has been mentioned above. Humans as we are, we are inclined to feel those things and act on those feelings that we have. However, it shouldn’t be an excuse that we should not try to actually not to do those so that we can actually live a peaceful and happy life.

With that, listed below are some ideas that will make your life, simple, easy, peaceful and most importantly, happy.

  1. Pay yourself first.

In the definition of personal finance, it’s the fact that you save. You allocate something for future use. With mine, it’s a little bit of that, but I would say that you reward yourself with something. It doesn’t have to be grand nor expensive. Buy something for yourself, something you can keep and something that will last. It probably won’t be an investment in a way that it won’t actually be profitable in terms of monetary value, but it would be profitable in such a way that it will actually make you feel good that you own things, that you have things, that you can see them and feel them as well. I love reading. I also love writing. So every chance I get, I buy a book or a journal. It’s not an actual investment but it does make me happy. And that is important that you find something bought out of your salary, so that in the future, you can actually point where your money went.

  1. Do not ever hesitate to give.

It’s really a great feeling to be able to extend help to others; to give a part of you to people around you. Do not think twice of having that chance to do charity at some point in your life. It doesn’t have to be always in money. You can always give your time. And that’s something that’s so rare this days. Most people would buy more time, would pay just to make things faster and easier. But remember as well that even if it’s always a good thing to give, you should also give at the right time, in the right way with the right intentions.

  1. Realize that money is important

We often take for granted the importance of money when in fact we all know that it is essential while we are still alive, breathing and existing on this earth.  What I’ve come to realize is that, you may not have problems about money itself but your problems are more or less influenced by it. For example, you can’t go to school. That is a problem. Why can’t you go to school? Because you don’t have money to pay for tuition. The main problem here is that you can’t go to school. Money is not really an issue at that point. But the one that caused, isn’t it financial incapability? You can’t buy food for the family? The problem is that your family is hungry. But why? Because you don’t have the capability of buying the food. Acknowledging that money is important leads you into taking an action or providing a solution for it. But then, also remember that money is your means for your goals not the goal itself.

  1. Spend time with the people you love

Always find time to be with people you care about. You only have 84,000 seconds in a day. Tomorrow will always be uncertain. Tell your parents you love them. Show your siblings that you care for them. Remember things about your friends and check on them from time to time. Life is too short to spend it for unnecessary activities and unproductive things. Treat each day like it is your last day

  1. Love what you do

Some would say that you should do what you love. I know that I actually believe in that. But most of the time, we don’t actually have that luxury of doing what we love and so, start to love what you are actually doing right now first. You chose to do it already anyway so embrace it. But don’t stop believing that someday you’ll be able to do what you actually love. Keep on chasing your dreams and reaching them. Never, never. Eventually, things will fall into its perspective. Have patience, even if at times, it seems like it’s a waste of time. But do your part as well and actually do something to make things happen. You can’t just wait for an opportunity to fall from the skies, nor a dream come true happening after wishing from a falling star.

  1. Acknowledge God

Above all, know that there is God who will never leave you nor forsake you. There is a God who always sees your needs as well as the One who provides with those things you need. Acknowledge that He is God and that He will always love us, be merciful to us, gracious and forgiving. Whenever you feel like what you have is too much, you can always talk to him. He may not answer you face to face, but he will send situations, people, events that will show you or lead you to having peace and comfort.

 

These are just few suggestions, proposition or proposals that you can do so that you’ll be at ease, be comfortable, have peace and as I’ve mentioned above, be happy. It won’t be easy. In fact, you cannot actually be very consistent in following them but the least you can do is try. Always try. Eventually, you’ll get used to it. It won’t be easy but it will make you happy.

Rediscovering

People would tend to relate anything they watch or read to their own lives. Especially with music, those whose hearts were broken can relate to every song that plays on the radio. Those who are depressed with their lives can find every single bit of what they are watching connected to the one’s they are feeling at the moment.

There were movies that I found myself being the main character, or maybe one of the characters. There were events in the novel that I imagined I am the one involved. There are stories of which I thought it has been based on my experiences or so I would like to believe.

Ice Princess. It’s a movie in the early 2000’s. The movie is about a girl who is very passionate on ice skating that she will usually win in any competitions but there was this certain event where she did not went but anyway someone discovered her and offered a scholarship. However it’s not for ice skaters but for hockey players. Despite this, she still accepted it. However, her brother is a huge fan of hockey and upon his knowledge of what her sister have, he changed hobby. He says that hockey is the only thing he can be really good at but even that her sister has to get it and be really good at it. He had a sour attitude towards his sister at first but at the end of the movie, they became closer than ever.

Some of us may have that certain thing of which we thought we are really good at but then someone close to us started having the same hobby and they have become really good at it that we questioned our ability and started to loose desire into doing something.

It’s more frustrating when that person hates that thing more than anything but time changed it and that person became better than you. What’s even more frustrating is that you cannot claim it to be uniquely your own and even brag about it simply because that person does it really good that you are out of the picture anymore.

Yes, they could be signs of you just wanting to get more attention but then aren’t we all are? At some point in life, we want to be recognized, to be acknowledged. We want to be appreciated.

How do you get over that feeling? Find a new hobby. Rediscover yourself. Go out of your comfort zone.

Or better yet, place more effort in being the best of what you are good at. Just because everyone else is doing your thing, you just have to keep on changing. Instead of looking for new, why not improve, differentiate and find ways to be unique in what you do?

Our society has placed a bar on what would determine our success. People would set a standard on what is acceptable as something that is worth recognized. Should we live up to that standard too?

There is no such thing as too late. It can be late but it will never be too late. So get up, take charge and be courageous to take that new step towards what we call life.

Clichés

Have you ever had that feeling where you wanted to stop time and wish it doesn’t move until you know what you will do next? I know you do. Everyone else does and don’t tell me you are not part of everyone because you are.

That’s the cliché statement in novels. They claim they are unlike others because most would be attracted to that new guy in school or in town or wherever the setting may be. But it’s pathetic because eventually they will give in when that guy asks them out and be his girl.

What’s common with these stories is that they assume too much. They think that what they are doing is best for everybody when in fact it’s not. They start to decide on their own without asking the other party what he or she wanted. Assumptions. Those things can really kill you and hard as we may want not to admit it, at some point in our life we somehow are guilty of that.

What other common things can we see in movies that are very much applicable in life? Perhaps, it’s living a pathetic life. Yes, we judge people too easily without even bothering first to look at our own faults. We don’t do it always and maybe we try to avoid it now, but again, at one point in our lifetime, we are guilty of that.

No matter how fictional movies, books can be, they teach us lessons we knew but somehow we need to be reminded over and over again and some that we chose to ignore as well. They act as catalysts for change and so somehow, media, if used well can be for the common good. It could change lives.

But there are those who abuse it. That’s the thing which we should avoid. There’s a philosopher who said that either too much or too less is never a good things. And truly it is. So use things moderately.

 

Feelings or Facts

 

There are times when you can’t stop doing something even when you definitely knew that it is totally wrong. There are decisions that you know will eventually have unfavorable result and yet you chose to make those decision. There are things which you desire that shouldn’t be desired but still you do.

It has been a mind game for some of us how there could be a battle of heart and mind when the mind is in control of everything. Later on, we realize that it’s not the heart and the mind but our emotion and our intellect. Our intellect tells us that it should not be done since base on the facts that we have, the knowledge that we have gained, experiences we have gone through, it is not the right thing to do. But our emotion tells us that it makes us giddy. It makes us feel good. It gives us a pleasurable feeling.

At some point, emotion takes over the intellect. The things that make us feel good gets to be chosen rather than those which are right and the things that our mind tells us is appropriate. What makes our heart race will be picked than what was instructed for us to do. Most of the time, the things that implants a good feeling in our body is quite contrary to what is accepted in the society and what we have grown to be the right thing to do.And so the saying goes that what is being prohibited is enticing proves to be true than what we ought to think about it.

It’s scary. Most of the time we choose the desires of our body more than what is ought to be done. We follow our emotions over those things which are appropriate and acceptable. Our emotions are in constant battle with our intellect. And most of the time, emotion wins over the intellect; feelings over facts, desires over proven results.

Being romantically involved with someone has a lot of contradictions, conflicts and battle of the mind and the heart. When you like someone, in a more intimate way, may it be same or opposite sex, what is right is clouded with the feelings you have for the other party.

You knew that person is cheating on you yet you still choose to be cheated on because you like being with him. Though it hurts, you’d rather endure the pain of that him cheating on you than totally not having him around at all.

You knew that your attraction to a certain person won’t go anywhere because that person won’t return the feelings you have and yet you still continue to show him how you feel. Eventually, you’ll get hurt and you’ll only have yourself to be blamed. And yet you will still not stop because it’s the thing that makes you happy, no matter how superficial and impossible your desires are.

You knew that it is wrong, morally and socially, to fall in love with the somebody who has the same gender orientation as you. However, the mind can’t stop what the heart loves. Emotions are unpredictable. You may choose not to like somebody too much because it isn’t just right but you just can’t help. And that, it’s not an excuse but it is something that’s just too hard to control and keep.

These things happen a lot; not just in being romantically involved or attracted with somebody but in any circumstances of life. We choose not what should be but what makes us feel good and happy.

We should choose what makes us happy but choosing them with the right reason, at the right time, in the right place with the right people.